A breakup is a thing most of us have experienced at some point in our lives! People fall in love and fall out of it! Lovers break up! Friends break up and grow distant as well! For some, moving on is easy; meanwhile, for others, it is the hardest thing they would do. On this Women’s International Day, I am choosing to talk about heartache and heartbreak and how to survive it.

Sometimes, someone who happens to be very important in your life chooses to walk away from you. When they do, you feel that you can’t seem to bear that loss and that you would die. Most women have known and lived through this pain!

But you don’t die from a breakup! You survive! You carry on, with the loss and deadness inside you!

You can’t breathe properly!

You don’t sleep much! You don’t eat much! You exist!

You don’t live properly, fully!

You fight to move on, move forward and not let your loss take over your life. You sometimes seem to be winning and then you end up losing! The slightest of trigger pushes you back in the dark corner.

You start revisiting your memories, the familiar places. You start reliving your pain and loss all over again! It feels good to rip the band-aid again and again and not allow yourself to heal.

In order to learn to survive, you stop getting attached to people! You don’t let them in, let them come near you…no matter how much you like them! This can be a good thing, a sane thing. Or, it can be something bad! You choose to miss out on the goodness of those around you in an attempt to protect yourself!

No one knows the inner battle you face every day, the attempt to go forward, the effort it takes to push yourself forward, to keep going. And then you are pulled back again in the abyss! You then you try to pull yourself together and pull yourself out!

That’s call survival.

Losing someone you love can be a difficult and painful experience. Here are some tips on how to survive when someone you love walks away:

Allow Yourself to Feel (to Heal)

Allow yourself to feel your emotions. It’s normal to feel sad, angry, or hurt when someone you love leaves you. Allow yourself to feel these emotions and don’t try to suppress them. Or else, these feelings would keep re-surfacing again and again, dragging you down! Acknowledging your feelings is the key towards healing.

Talk to Someone

Start focusing on the people you have in your life rather than the ones who have left! Reach out to a trusted friend or family member and share your feelings. Talking to someone can help you process your emotions and feel less alone.

Take Care of Yourself

Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in self-care activities. Taking care of yourself can help you feel more in control and better equipped to handle your emotions.

Stay Busy

Find ways to occupy your time and distract yourself from your negative thoughts. Take up a new hobby or activity that you’ve always wanted to try. Try to experience life in its depth and all its beauty in it’s novelty.

Don’t Blame Yourself

 It’s easy to blame yourself when someone you love walks away, to question your own intentions and actions. But remember that it’s not your fault. You can’t control other people’s actions or decisions. Whether they choose to leave or stay, it’s up to them.

Focus on the Present Moment

Don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. Focus on the present moment and take things one day at a time. Start each day with gratitude!

Seek Professional Help

If you’re struggling to cope with your emotions, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with the support and guidance you need to navigate this difficult time and heal!

Know Your Worth

I cannot stress this enough! Someone who has chosen to walk away from you, that person has done so because he/she doesn’t realize your worth! You don’t need to put your life on hold for someone like that! You know your worth! You know that you deserve better, the best!

To Sum Up

People come in our life and they leave as well. When a person whom you care deeply about chooses to walk away from you, you naturally feel hurt and lost. You lose the will to live, the ability to trust and love. It takes a lot of time and effort to heal yourself. But it’s worth doing because you are worthy of love and everything good in life and relationships.