Validation is an important emotional need. It is natural to feel doubtful about our own feelings and capabilities, from time to time. That’s why we need assurance from others, i.e., friends and family members. We also need self-validation.

It is unlikely however that we are going to receive validation as often as we need it. It is even possible that we get ridiculed for emotional needs.

As a result, our unmet emotional needs cause us great emotional anguish and disappointment. Relying on others to get validated is a toxic need.

What is Self-Validation

Self-validation means accepting our feelings and emotions, without feeling ashamed about experiencing them, without having the need to justify them to ourselves and to others. It is for this reason we need self-validation more than we need validation from others. Self-validation makes us emotionally emotionally independent, self-reliant and stronger.

Self-Validation Examples

Here are 17 examples of self-validation:

1. I love myself exactly as who I am.
2. I accept myself as I am.
3. I am worthy of love.
4. My body and soul need nurturing.
5. I don’t have to explain myself to others all the time.
6. I endured the hardest week of the year. It’s natural to feel exhausted.
7. It’s ok to take a break when I need one, without feeling guilty.
8. It’s ok to say no, without feeling guilty.
9. I forgive myself for my past mistakes.
10. I am proud of how far I have come.
11. I have come so far, despite wanting to quit.
12.  I have more strengths than weaknesses.
13.  I have an inner strength I never realized I had.
14.  I have gotten through trying times, all on my own.
15.  I have been through so much. I have come quite far, all on my own.
16.  My journey is worth celebrating.
17.  I am a work in progress!

Final Thoughts

Self-validation is an acquired behavior. It increases your self-awareness. It would help you become your own best friend. Therefore, self-validation is a skill worth learning.

Do you practice self-validation? I would love to hear more self-validation statements from you! Hit me back with your comments!